Throwaway account. So me (26f) and my husband (28m), who I'll call "Jake" for this story, have been together for 5 years and married for 3. We have recently started trying for a baby as we both felt like that was the next step in our life together, and 3 weeks ago I got a positive test back.My mother-in-law wants to be in the room when I give birth. She is an unpleasant and pushy woman and none of her own daughters have allowed her near them when they gave birth. My sisters-in-law are all at least twelve years older than my husband and are all done having kids. I am the last chance for my mother-in-law to see the birth of a ...My husband and I recently moved into the same city as his childhood best friend "Steve". Steve is allergic to all nuts, legumes and soy. Because of this, my husband wants our house to have a rule that we're not to have nuts in the house in case he comes over. I think this is a dumb rule and refuse to comply. I did agree to keep my nut-based ...Well, you're being sensitive. Learn to take a joke hun.". In all reality, they should get couple therapy so husband can stfu and learn that he's being condescending and disrespectful and to also learn that there's no such thing as someone else emasculating him. He does that himself by being a prick. 3.7K.She told my husband, in front of his brother and sister and all the family, that she and my father in law never wanted him. She said they had only wanted two kids and they were lucky enough to have a boy and a girl and that was all they wanted. But by accident she got pregnant again. They don’t believe in abortions so they “were stuck ...NTA. I am mad for you. What a shitty bunch of in-laws, and I include your husband in that. Your kid, HIS kid, THEIR grandkid depends on you for food, so besides being a major fuckwattle to you, they're hurting their own blood as well, for apparently no reason whatsoever. It's time for your husband to stand up for you.It was just me and my daughter for the next 7 years until I married my husband. We had 3 kids in quick succession after we got married. They are now 8M, 7F, and 5F. I recently found out I was pregnant, and that has made my marriage worse. My daughter's dad first lived off of others giving him money to be an equestrian.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: got mad at my husband for using my money that I'd given him to hold onto, not to keep and use 2) we're married and we should be a team, which can mean supporting each other financially at times. Help keep the sub engaging!She called my husband ungrateful. My husband was pissed at this point and told his her majority of our income is from me so he's embarrassed to even consider loaning them the money. Now her anger shifted to me. She told my husband I am ruining their family. That's when my husband dropped the call. He told me he's sorry and not to think about it.When my husband lost his job and had trouble bouncing back, I paid for everything. Several people told me I should ask him to pay me back. I didn’t. A few years later Covid hit my business hard and my husband is now supporting me. The important thing is OP and her husband have reached an understanding and mutual respect and that she’s happy ...In the end, I said they could prove they were sorry by forwarding me the $100k my degree and college expenses were, just like they did for my brothers. My mom burst into tears, my dad said I wasn't being serious and I just left. Since then, I've been getting calls from my brothers telling me I'm being immature and hurtful.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1.) Telling my husband I can't keep letting him leave open beers in the fridge. 2.) Because it shows that I don't respect my husbands wishes. Help keep the sub engaging!Well they seem to be extra this year so my husband told a guy to handle it without me knowing. Well today it's Memorial Day weekend and I went down to the dock and it smelled horribly of mothballs! The guy used a snake repellent that's the same active ingredient as mothballs and I'm livid that my property is polluted with something so ...throwaway-36928. AITA for telling my ex his lack of money is not my issue? Not the A-hole. I (36F) have a daughter Sadie (12) with my ex-husband John (39). We got divorced 5 years ago and I have primary custody while he sees her two weekends a month. Last year, he got married to Amanda who has sole custody of her kids (10&8F) from a previous ...ADMIN MOD. AITA for not involving myself in my ex-husband's child life? Not the A-hole. My (25F) ex-husband (29M) and I divorced a year ago after I found out that he had an affair son, ''C'' (1M), by that time we already had ''A'' (3m) and ''B'' (1M). Since my husband had and affair he lost any right to alimony or child-support from my part due ...This has been my mantra for years. Mental illness or a diagnosis can be a reason for behavior, but it's not an excuse. Maybe it's not always reasonable to expect a person to be able to change that behavior, but it is perfectly reasonable for someone to say "this is not behavior I'm willing to tolerate in a friend/partner" whether that behavior is just kind of annoying or straight up abusive.When her brother needed help, it's I who gave him money. Why? Because they are MY in-laws, and he's MY brother-in-law. I think it's my responsibility to look after their parents. She thinks it's her responsibility to look after mine in another way. It's absolutely NOT one-sided on my part. My wife Lisa and I have been together for a while.I told her and my husband she's not holding my daughter again until she stops disrespecting me. My husband was pissed but didn't say anything because he "gets it" and sees why it sketches me out but is still bothered that his mom is "alienated". I told him when she learns to respect me, she will get another opportunity. He agrees.I was in bed for four days with a fever ranging from 103-106 (Fahrenheit), plus chills, body aches and vomiting. It was awful. My husband, to his credit, did take care of me. He took a day off of work when he needed to, took care of the kids (14, 6, 4 and 1) solo and made sure I was staying hydrated, asked if I needed anything, etc….We have rarely heard from the woman since then until last week when she approached my husband at his workplace. My husband told me that the woman wants him to be in the child's life and be a father figure to him, take him to sports games, play with him, go to school related things etc. I told my husband he has no legal obligation to do that and ...Right so onto the current issue. BM has for as long as I know my hubby been a bit fo a problem and I'll give you a lot of time examples. Lied about the kiddo being deathly ill and on life support. Provided a fake hospital bill in regard to the above. Lied to my FIL about hubby paying child support so she was receiving money from both my hubby ...When my husband and I got married we thought it was only fair to share the college fund even though my ex husbands mother was the one who created it. Kinda like here we consider you family type of thing. My daughter was more furious with me that I was already talking about this while my mother is still alive.Nah you made an assumption it was wrong. Unless you specifically stated you would not have kids with him then he’s not wrong to assume that’s on the cards. If you were positive you were never going to have more kids I’m confused why you wouldn’t have that conversation before marriage.My MIL immediately started jumping to her sons defense and said that I couldn't tell her who she could and couldn't have here, so I screamed back "the fuck I can't! You don't pay any bills here, you don't even get your fucking mail here! That kid steps foot on my property one single time again and you'll be out of here!" They leave.ETA again: he signed a pre-nup. I owned the house long before we started dating. I withdrew MY $23k from the bank and put it in my personal. I already spoke to an attorney and I'm in the clear to do so because I have a paper trail on what was mine vs what was his. I'm an accountant. Numbers and money is kind of my specialty.ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband to "figure it the fuck out" or I was going back to my mom's? My husband works 12hr shifts. Anything over 10 (on a normal 40hr work week) is double time and therefore he's been working 12hr shifts 5 days a week to save money. Now for the backstory, we have a 12yo, a 7yo, a 5yo and 4 month old.OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I cut my mother off financially and made a petty remark as to what she should do instead. 2. This might make me an asshole because im saying exactly what was told to me as a kid, in response to something i wanted. Some might say i need to leave the past in ...AITA for telling my husband his "fragile masculinity" is costing us money? Back in late 2021, my husband Craig (M46) and I (F44) welcomed our fourth child into the world. As a result, we needed to upgrade one of our cars to something larger. We decided to trade in my super reliable Toyota RAV4 for something bigger since I was the one who ...Personally, my husband has always been extra protective so I think he's just being extra. I also don't understand why my kid spoke to him instead of straight to me. I don't think I am in the wrong here, just that my daughter has got the wrong idea and my husband is overreacting. AITA for telling my daughter how much things cost for her?It makes complete sense that he wants to do that. If he was my husband, this would make me love him even more and I would admire how kind he is. You'd have some say if your finances were together, but being separated means he is right, it's nothing to do with you. Just be proud that generous to his loved ones. 3.So I knew it was true. After I finished laughing I said to my dear husband that the divorce papers will be delivered to you by tonight. And you aren’t getting shit from me because that prenup that you signed 5 years ago…”yeah you are fucked”. Meaning he ain’t getting shit. After that I paid for my food and left.The husband has no concept of boundaries after a lifetime of a mother and sisters like OP is describing. He can't have any boundaries of his own with them, that possibility was browbeaten out of him long ago, so now he thinks it's perfectly normal to ignore his wife's boundaries for herself and their baby.Baby #3 has heart problems. My husband said every time he went to lay him down the oxygen monitor would go off. The thing is Husband didn't figure out was baby #3 hates anything on his face. So you have to rock him to sleep then carefully put the oxygen on his nose. My aunt said that my husband called her the first night around midnight.The story unfolded when a woman seeking advice posted on Reddit’s popular “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) forum, sharing that she had informed her husband that the money she earned was hers alone. She explained that she had always worked and managed her own finances, and she felt it was fair that she maintained control over her …I then got a phonecall from mom and she didn't sound okay. She asked wether or not my husband took money from his family before they attended the cookout. I was confused I asked what she was talking about and she told me that my husband charged every single person from my side of family who attended the event $25 dollars.By definition, husband has to spend almost every night with the kid. Be there for almost all breakfasts and dinners. I mean, the most that husband can realistically do with OP are times when kid is either with a babysitter, some activity or school. Once husband is custodial, OP and husband will no longer be living together.AITA for not sharing my prize money with my husband. My husband and I have been married for 10 years, we are not in the US. A few weeks ago I saw a competition that we would both qualify for and told him about it. He said he wasn’t interested in it, so I said I would do submissions for both of us anyway to increase my chances of winning.ADMIN MOD. AITA for telling my husband to "figure it the fuck out" or I was going back to my mom's? My husband works 12hr shifts. Anything over 10 (on a normal 40hr work week) is double time and therefore he's been working 12hr shifts 5 days a week to save money. Now for the backstory, we have a 12yo, a 7yo, a 5yo and 4 month old.It sounds like you are forced to ask your family for money because your husband keeps such a tight rein on the money. This is a very outdated and inappropriate way to be handling household finances. Although you do not directly earn income, you are contributing to the household in non-financial ways and your husband's money IS your money.When I presented the plans to my husband he said that we could go to more cities in Italy and he could help me edit pictures for my photography blog. However, he also said that he needed to have meetings and do administrative housekeeping and he needed to do it in person. I was disappointed and he got upset and asked me to stop rolling my eyes. I told …He turns around and calls his mom to borrow the money. When I found out about it 2 days later and asked where he got the money, he told me. My MIL and I have a somewhat strained relationship, and money has always been an issue. My husband knows how I feel about this. I told him it would have been nice if he would have talked to me about it ...Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole.Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment.. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: After my mother manipulated my daughter into asking for a new mommy for her birthday I told my family that if any of them tried to set me up with a woman again I would move away and they ...Chao, a former child refugee, told protestors not to harass her husband about separating immigrant families. US Transportation Secretary Elaine Chao became a far-right darling over...Many people wanted an update, so here it is. After I gave my husband space, I confronted him about his trips with my brother. He agreed to be honest with me about their relationship. As some of you suspected, Matt knew when we first met that I was Tony's sister and started dating me to get close to Tony again.In my home country the custom is for the man’s family to pay the woman’s family, and they also have to pay for the wedding, buy a house for the couple, etc. I’m not sure what that’s called in English. I find it problematic either way the money/gifts go - it sets up the relationship as transactional, which is ripe for abuse. (Not that ...Tim and Jona have a 5yo and 3 day old (boys). My labor went a lot smoother than hers did. She ended up needing a emergency hysterectomy, as she was bleeding out on the L/D bed. They came home last night. Now, when they got home Tim called my husband down to smoke a joint and when he got back upstairs, he told me that Tim had asked him for a favor.The kids were confused because they have always known their half sister is not my child but they started to doubt because of how their mom talked (saying good men take care of all their children and loving a child who is part of your family should never be that hard). The kids approached me and asked me about it and told me their mom wanted ...After an argument, my husband went through our finances to see where we could cut back. He was confused when he saw that I had regular reoccurring withdrawals leading back years, and asked me about it. I broke down and revealed my money to him, which not sits at about $47,000. After I told him all this he just broke down sobbing.My husband (38M) and I (39F) have been happily married for a little over 2 years. We own a home and do quite well for ourselves financially. He generally maintains the finances for our family. My husband’s mother and sister live a few hours away and I have always felt they were very abusive towards him. They speak down to him, disrespect him ...OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: got mad at my husband for using my money that I'd given him to hold onto, not to keep and use 2) we're married and we should be a team, which can mean supporting each other financially at times. Help keep the sub engaging!To this my husband texted her telling how she is being disrespectful and that he would be in no contact with her as well and he blocked her as well. Soon my husband got a lot of texts saying how amy was having a meltdown and according to her, "I am manipulating and isolating my husband from his friends over trivial matters." l nearly laughed at ...Argument me and my wife are having is that I keep telling my wife I don't have time to iron my clothes etc and since she is SAHM, she should do it, but I know …AITA for telling my husband to stop spending so much money on his dead girlfriend’s younger sister? I (28F) have been with my husband (34M) for almost a decade. We have three children (6F, 3M, 2F) together, and we are currently expecting our fourth child. He is an amazing father to our kids and I couldn't ask for a better husband.My husband's high school best mate's Mum came just to see the wedding- husband did not have a great home life when he was a kid and he spent a lot of time at her house instead. We asked her to come along to the reception (it was a buffet at a bowls club, lots of tables and no assigned seating, one extra wouldn't hurt) but she politely declined.Husband's family does have a lot of money, the generational kind of wealth. And we did the whole meeting - getting engaged - getting married quite quickly to be fair to his parents! But the thing is: my family has more money than his family! And hubby knew it too! I would be a less than stellar gold digger if that was my intent.AITA for not sharing my prize money with my husband. My husband and I have been married for 10 years, we are not in the US. A few weeks ago I saw a competition that we would both qualify for and told him about it. He said he wasn’t interested in it, so I said I would do submissions for both of us anyway to increase my chances of winning.AITA for telling my husband. My money is mine? (r/AmITheAsshole)Source: Zealousideal_Fly4786 on Reddit (link removed because YouTube keeps dinging me for lin...Whenever I ask my husband to talk to his sister about the money he loaned her, he would tell me to chill and change the topic immediately. When I corner him, he would tell me that it's a small amount and he won't lose his sleep over it, and ask me to drop the topic altogether. It got to a point where I felt I should step in and ask her myself ...Some church offering jokes are “Country Church Stewardship” and a joke about Mary’s birthday gift. Another joke tells the story about little Johnny buying candy with his offering m...NTA. I am mad for you. What a shitty bunch of in-laws, and I include your husband in that. Your kid, HIS kid, THEIR grandkid depends on you for food, so besides being a major fuckwattle to you, they're hurting their own blood as well, for apparently no reason whatsoever. It's time for your husband to stand up for you.AITA for telling my husband my ex and I traveled to 56 countries together? I (44F) am turning 45 August 3rd. Two months ago my husband of 5 years (45M) surprised me and said he booked us a 10 day vacation to Italy. We leave July 28th. My husband is a special ed middle school teacher so school is out until September.. Throwawaystmoney. AITA for telling everybody that my hMy husband likes adventures. But these &ldq My husband and I had a long talk when he came home. He knows I am leaving on a trip and asked to go. I told him I needed time. I showed him the comments on this thread. …See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! UPDATE: AITA for leaving my husband at a family reunion? First off, thank you for all the love and support (and constructive criticism). It truly has helped my family a lot. My 13-year-old (Ellie) had suggested I speak to a person that visited her school. My little sister was 12 when I got married and was definitely not in John tells me that's not what they wanted to talk about but that they wanted all of the money. I'm a bit taken aback. Apparently half won't be enough. I tell them that I was going to use my part (or if she didn't want the half, all of it) for my daughter's college fund and another fund for her to use for whatever she wishes during her teen years.AITA for telling my husband my ex and I traveled to 56 countries together? I (44F) am turning 45 August 3rd. Two months ago my husband of 5 years (45M) surprised me and said he booked us a 10 day vacation to Italy. We leave July 28th. My husband is a special ed middle school teacher so school is out until September. r/AmItheAsshole. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in a...
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